Everyone can relate to a grudge at the office. I had my share. The most difficult ones, I have found were the one’s with my peers. Neither peer is willing to back down and in these situations of equal power is where a problem can often fester.
I used to walk down to a peers office just to get into an argument, because I did not like his attitude along with others, so I reciprocated. This was early in my career and not the smartest thing or best example even if people thought I was in the right.
One time a peer of mind tried to assign me the job of cleaning the toilet. I refused. He and I were the two senior people in the room and believe me I did my share of grunt work. He also wanted to use people from my department to work in his department and I refused. Arguments concluded each of these meetings. I went to our boss and told him their was an issue and I was willing to let him solve it. He told us to chill out, which is what I wanted. He was not in my department and I just wanted space.
Years later two people came into my office saying they were having issues getting along. They both had already talked to me individually to try and muster support to back themselves. I gave them a choice. If I solved the dispute neither of them would like it or they could solve it themselves. I made it very clear there would be no favorites. They managed to get along. I know there was still tension, but I would check up on them and they managed to balance their differences out.
I learned lessons along the way. My leadership style adapted and as I matured I did not walk down to someone’s office to yell at them anymore. I actually did not yell much at all as the years went on. Sometimes to pep up a tired group I would raise my voice, but that was calculated. Even during my most furious moments I sat down and talked with people.
Sometimes grudges are legitimate. On the other hand office grudges eat away at the people involved and effect other people in the workplace. The people involved go vent to the wrong people and draw sides in the dispute and drum up a toxic work environment. When this goes on its often a reflection of the lack of leadership in the afflicting parties. Office grudges are best resolved quickly.
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